7 Life Changing Things You Should Do Differently This New Year.

Yaaay! Happy New year, let me welcome you officially into the new year. I know today is not the 1st of january, but its better late than never. This post should have been published yesterday but yours truly was busy through out the weekend. A bosom friend of mine @RealGodBoy hosted a comedy show on sunday 5th jan. Featuring one of the most sought after comedian in nigeria today, seyi law and SACO. It was a wonderful event and yours truly was totally occupied. Anyways, I am back and I do apologize for posting this late. This post details 7 things you need to do differently this year to be productive. Lego!

1. Welcome Change.
The year is new so are the opportunities. So many things are going to change in your life this year. Some friends will leave others will stay. New situations will arise that you’ve never faced before. You’ll welcome your first baby, get married, get a new job or take a new course. All these might rock your boat a little.
Don’t panic, changes are mostly designed to enlarge our context. To bring us out of our comfort zones.
Don’t react, respond to change. Reactions may be accompanied by feelings and feelings do nothing but cloud our reasoning. Exclude your self from the situation. Be proactive, seek solutions and accommodate changes rationally. The earlier you master the situation, the better for you.

2. Be Proactive:
Stop waiting for/on people to do things for you. Get your hands dirty. The people you are waiting on also have needs to be met. Put your back to work. The things that matters most in life, those things that make you successful are things you need to do yourself. No one should tell you to have your bath. If you don’t, you stink. No one should help you eat, if you don’t, you starve. No one should tell you to mind your dressing, if you don’t, you are disgraced.
Place that call, meet that person. If it doesn’t work out fine, you would have learnt a lesson. If it doesn’t work out the way you want, you can ask for help. Most things we seek help for, could have been achieved or done halfway. Put your creative juices to work.

3. Unclutter Your Schedule/Life.
Get rid of the distractions in your life. The unproductive habits. That friend whose speech is always about girls/boys or booze. That girlfriend whose speech is about the next high class party. Get rid of them. Those were the things you spent your energy on last year. Have you fared any better? I once heard that the definition of insanity is doing the same things and expecting a different result. Try something different this year. It may be challenging and if it does, read step one again.

4. Set SMART Goals.
What goals do you have for this year? How do you intend to achieve them.
Setting goals need not be difficult. Just look at 3-5 things you want to achieve this year. That’s your goal for the year.
Break it down into tiny bits. It is better to have a one point agenda and Follow [that] One Course Until Success rather than having a 13 point agenda and have unfinished goals by year end.

In setting your goals this year, remember they have to be

A. Specific: clear, well defined and focused.

B. Measurable: it should be quantifiable, how many or how much will I have by year end. It helps you know you are on track.

C. Attainable: Your goals should be actionable, doable. You may be stretched but you won’t break.

D. Relevant: Your goals must align, satisfy and fulfill your purpose. There’s no point for a surgeon to be, to start taking auto repair classes. It takes you to your destination faster.

E. Time Bound: Your goals should have a dead line. It should answer the question when?

5. Calibrate Your Year: See what you can achieve in january. See what you will achieve in february etc. The reason why laboratory equipments are calibrated is to set standards and measure progress.

Welcome Change.

Welcome Change.

6. Learn To Say NO: Stop trying to please everyone or you get hurt. This year make a conscious effort to put boundaries in place. Enough of trying to be in someone’s good books. You are probably not the only person who can render the assistance they seek.
If you can help them out, please do so. If the assistance is going to inconvenience you, please refuse politely. They may act offended for a while, but its nothing time won’t fix. Don’t spend the year building other people’s life/family while having less time to build yours. These same people will ask “what are you doing with your life?”
If you are not there to help them, they will find other means. Let me surprise you, today is the 7th of january, this year is already going. If you don’t plan your life others will include you in theirs. Oh, “they support me financially” you lament.
Well they are in a position to help you today. They are not the only “Godsent”, God will not leave you without support. In fact saying or thinking like that shows you limit God and his works. It shows how myopic your idea of your God is. Let God provide for you.

7. Be Deliberate: Finally, everything you do this year must be deliberate. Do things because it appeals to you. Do things that add value to you. Go to places that make you happy. Your happiness is of your making. Ask yourself, “why am I wearing this blue shirt?, why am I attending this event? Is it because you don’t want to hurt your host? Being deliberate solidifies your standards.
However, being deliberate is no license to stubbornness or disobedience. Do things that are morally acceptable.

I hope you have enjoyed and learnt some lessons.

Don’t forget to leave a comment, share this post with your friends and join the conversation on twitter. @phemyte.

Have a Wonderful New Year.

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